This means that when a man and a woman enter marriage together, they must realize each has in a sense become the employee of the other but in a business that they jointly own!
Most people work for pay and job satisfaction. They also work hard to please employers, to earn promotion, receive increase in salary and acquire job security amongst others. Where they are Christians, they also work to please God and make Him known to others in the manner they do their work. Here they remember their faith wants them to love their neighbours as they love themselves. Even where they are self -employed, many people aim at most of these targets. They do not want to lose their jobs or compromise their position in the workplace.
This implies that spouses must not live in marriage anyhow if they want their relationship to thrive and be a joyful union. They must do many things well as deliberately as they can. They should however know fully well they would not always feel that way.
Pleasing your spouse would mean behaving in ways that satisfy one’s partner most of the time. This attitude would normally encourage the other partner to also behave in a similar manner. (No spouse can be the perfect partner all the time however ). Continuing to behave in this manner most of the time would be ideal as these were the conditions that led to proposal and later marriage.
As friends both partners were polite, kind, helpful, generous; the list is endless. Changing behaviour and attitude after marriage would be disastrous for the union. In the same way, not working efficiently after the probation period could lead to job loss, and demotion among other possibilities.
If one spouse decided to talk harshly to the other, be selfish, come home late at the end of the day; or find an intimate friend of the opposite sex, that person would not be contributing to a peaceful and stable marriage. That person would be undermining the joint business of their marriage.
Working at a job efficiently for only a week or even a year after employment would not provide long lasting success or benefits. In the same manner, marriage should be carried on as an efficient business or a job to last long in a peaceful and joyful relationship.
Marriage can also be likened to planting a seed which must be nurtured to grow and bear fruit or neglected to wilt and die.
I f every couple worked hard at their marriage and treated it like a seed they have planted, there will be contentment in the relationship. I do not want to use happiness because for me that word has lost its meaning in reference to marriage. And there will be fewer divorces and dead marriages which continue to exist without any life in them.
Also most couples would then enjoy their old age together when their children leave home and it becomes impossible to maintain the company of friends.